HAVING to spend Christmas alone this year? It may turn out to be your best one yet.
London-based social media manager Martha Mills shared a list on Twitter on the reasons why celebrating December 25 solo can actually be more fun – and her hilarious points have gone viral.
Speaking to Fabulous, Martha said: “I used to hate Christmas, I resented the whole of December and I couldn’t get away from it and everyone was forcing it in my face.
“That is partly how I started doing Christmas on my own, hiding from it. Then I kind of realised you can’t run away from it, so I started embracing it having realised you can make it anything you want it to be.
“For me, it is a really peaceful, decadent day of self-care.”
Martha took to Twitter to share exactly why a Christmas by yourself is epic, and it has been liked over 66,000 times.
She began: “If you are suddenly facing Christmas alone, I have tips. I LOVE Christmas alone so get on board.”
Here’s the seasoned pro’s top pieces of advice for enjoying Christmas solo….
1. Eat whatever food you want
Many people feel the pressure to spend hours preparing a perfect roast, but what if you just ditched the exhausting prep and tucked into your absolute favourite dish?
Martha wrote on Twitter: “What would you ideally like to eat if no-one could limit you or judge you?
“Nothing but pigs in blankets? Just cake? Pot Noodle?
“Get that! I’m having cheese and crackers.”
2. Drink whatever you want judgement-free
Ever feel pressured to get “merry” on the big day, or worried you’ll get too merry?
Martha advised you to throw expectation out the window and drink what you actually want this year.
She wrote: “Drink: Same goes – what would be a decadent treat? Endless cups of strong tea? Babycham? A robust red? Get it, you’re worth it.
“If you know booze makes you cry either limit it or buy extra tissues. No judgment.”
3. Plan your dream day of activities
Martha advised to plan a few of your favourite activities to do on the day, without having to compromise for others, and to make it a day of “self-care”.
She said: “Make a plan, don’t leave it to the day and find yourself lost.
“Doesn’t have to be a rigorous agenda but ‘wake up whenever, hot buttery toast and tea for breakfast, bubble bath, watch films, go for walk’ will give you a structure to enjoy.”
4. Speak to your favourite people (or don’t!)
Martha said: “Many people can feel rotten lonely in a house full of relatives. Remember that.
"Even people in bustling houses can be miserable.”
If you do want a bit of contact on the day, from a distance, she recommended setting up a chat with your favourite few.
She said: “Arrange to make call one or two people, just to say Merry Christmas and hear about how they dropped the turkey or what they’re watching on TV.”
5. Go wild with decorations
Instead of wallowing away at home, Martha advised that you go to town with your tinsel and baubles and lean into the festive cheer.
She said: “Do it! Get some decorations up – it makes a huge difference and shows that YOU are taking control of this fate, plus twinkly lights and bright things are cheering.
“I like to put on Christmas music and pour a hot mulled wine while I put mine up.”
6. Enjoy not having to fake a happy reaction to gifts
Martha pointed out that there is nothing worse than having to open presents in front of other people and pretend to like the gift.
She joked: “I prefer opening presents by myself, I don’t like the pressure of having to fake a really overjoyed reaction when I open something horrible.”
Taking to Twitter she advised you buy gifts for yourself, and said: “If you have gifts to open maybe you’d like to arrange to do that at the same time as a friend over video chat.
“If you don’t have gifts please consider a spot of self-gifting and YES, wrap them up so you can open them on the day.
“Hard recommend on this one.”
7. Step out for walk
Martha stressed that one of the best parts of a solo Christmas is stepping out for a walk in the neighborhood, particularly as everyone is so friendly on the big day.
The social media guru wrote: “Going outside for a stroll on Christmas Day is also a strong recommendation.
“Cheery cries of ‘Merry Christmas’ exchanged with strangers and their dogs is an absolute tonic.”
8. Throw expectation out the window
Martha said that expectation is the first thing that can “really scupper a Christmas”.
She said: “Everyone is brought up to expect that perfect Christmas you see in the adverts.
“I’m trying to get people to change the expectation of the day, instead of it having to be a perfect, magical time we are all told it is meant to be, it can just be a really great lazy Sunday, there is nothing wrong with a great lazy Sunday, it is brilliant.”
Taking to Twitter, she added: “Hold on to the fact it is just 24hrs and doesn’t have to *be* anything.
“Even if you spend it sobbing it will not last forever, it ends. Be gentle to yourself, make your own rules, turn it into your ideal lazy selfish Sunday.
“I learnt to lean into it and love it.”
Her points have clearly struck a chord with many social media users, particularly as millions face being separate from their families this year due to the coronavirus pandemic.
One wrote: “On my own first time ever on Christmas Day (been round the sun 62 times). Was thoroughly miserable until I read your thread. Looking forward now.”
Another added: “Thank you, I needed to see this thread xxx.”
A third commented: “The best Christmas I ever had was on my own. I read a book, I watched movies, I took two naps and I ate nothing but Cheetos and leftover pizza from the night before. It was glorious.”
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