I've been asked to spend £4k on my mate's wedding & my man of 10 years isn't invited – I'm fuming | The Sun

ATTENDING a wedding is not only costly for the bride and groom, but often for the guests too.

Having to find an outfit, transport, a gift and even accommodation, many guests find themselves spending a fortune on someone else’s big day.

But one anonymous wedding guest is absolutely fuming, after her friend told her that her destination wedding would set her back at least £4,000, just to attend the ceremony.

The bride had assured her friend that her wedding would be “affordable”, but the guest was left stunned when she was expected to pay for flights, hotel, transport to and from the wedding venue, and food for the duration of their stay.

The wedding guest calculated that the total spend was set to be around $5,000 (£4,120).

What's more, the wedding guest was devastated when she realised her invite did not come with a plus one, meaning that she wouldn’t have been able to bring her partner of almost 10 years. 

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But when the guest voiced her complaints to the bride-to-be, she told them that they "better come" to the wedding and claimed the £4,000 price tag was "affordable".

In a post on Reddit, the guest said: "I was recently invited to a destination wedding at a location where the rich and famous like to go. 

“The location is a 10-hour flight away, and with that much travel to the location, it would essentially be a vacation.

"I did not receive a plus one to the wedding. I understand that not everyone gets a plus one, and maybe that would be okay for a local wedding and if they didn't know the significant other. 

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“They personally know my partner, and we’ve been together for almost a decade, and they did not invite them.

"I also barely know anyone else invited to this wedding, as we are one-off friends. 

“Why would I want to travel to this destination by myself? 

“Maybe if it was a local wedding, but they essentially booked a honeymoon resort for the wedding.

"On top of that, the cost to attend the wedding is absurd. 

“The main suggested hotel listed is over $1,000 (£824) a night. 

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“The 'cheaper' hotels they listed aren’t much cheaper. I couldn’t find anything in the region I could afford.

"When I told the bride I wasn’t likely to attend due to the cost and was sorry and wished them a good time, she basically said, 'Well, you have been abroad before, so you can afford this. It is affordable. You better come to my wedding.'

“It was almost threatening to me and [then she] started asking weird questions about my financial situation."

The wedding guest decided not to attend the wedding despite the bride's comments but is "afraid" to RSVP no, as she doesn’t want to lose her friend or start an argument.

The guest added: "With all the costs, in total, it’s likely cost me $5,000 to attend the wedding with the hotels nearby, airfare, transport, and food, and I am not even in the wedding party. 

“I won’t be allowed to have my partner there, either.

"I’ve never spent that much on something in my life. I grew up lower middle class and this is honestly just shocking to me.

"I guess I am losing a friend over this. I’m almost afraid to send in the official 'no' invite and am having a panic attack."

Reddit users were shocked at the situation and stunned at the hefty price tag, with many in sympathy with the guest. 

One person said: "You will certainly not be the only person declining for financial reasons. She's in for a reality check."

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Another added: "Affordable is relative and you at least tried to buffer the no RSVP by having a chat first."

A third wrote: "You could literally throw a basic wedding for that much money. An invitation is not a summons. And not inviting a partner of 10 years is rude. Send your regrets, it will be fine."

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