Mum admits she knew she was going to leave her partner six months BEFORE marrying him

Aussie Khara Williams met her ex-husband when she was 15 and split from him when she was 24, two years after she tied the knot.

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My family and I have just enjoyed some time back in Darwin visiting where my first son Jed was born, and our first family home. This was such a special adventure for our little family. Becoming a mum actually came as a surprise to me. I had just started out on a fantastic new career path and had no intention of starting a family at the time. But it was an impromptu visit to a card reader at Parap Markets that changed everything – he told me that I would become a mother soon. As it turned out, he was bang on the money. I have popped back in to visit him during our visit, because what’s life without a little magic? #kharawilliamsgetreal

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In a new blog post, Khara revealed: "If I’m completely honest, I think I knew six months before getting married that, one day, I would leave him.

"That’s hard to put down on paper, because it makes me sound, well, cruel.

"But life and love isn’t black and white and I did love and adore him. We were best friends, but in many ways I also felt like his mother.

"Yet I just kept going because at that age, I genuinely thought it was the right thing to do."

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I’ve always understood the value of work—kicking off my career at age 12 with my first job, which was quickly followed by an apprenticeship awarded at age 16. Fast forward to today—twenty years on—and my appetite for work is just as enormous; but I’ve found myself figuring out how to manage the challenge of juggling being a high-level executive, a mother, a wife, a daughter and a friend all at once. + Let me serve the truth up to you on a not-so-silver-platter—it’s not easy. Anyone who boasts they’ve achieved balance in this space is either a superhero (hats off to you, mama) or just simply totally okay with rocking up to the office in vomit-stained corporate attire.

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Khara said the relationship made her question her sense of purpose and she shut herself off from her friends as she struggled to cope.

She added: "I questioned myself daily, even though I knew deep down, that wasn’t how it was supposed to feel. At all."

Khara, who's now happily married to husband Scott and mum to sons Jed and Tom, said it took her two years to muster up the courage to leave her ex – and they haven't spoken a word to each other since.

But she felt even more isolated following the split, because none of her friends had been through a divorce at that age.

She explained: "I felt a sadness so intense that it’s still difficult to put into words. I felt I’d failed the marriage and was terrified of being judged as a result."

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Last week, I wanted to throw in my career… for good.⁣ ⁣ I was leaving home for the day, I’d said goodbye to Jed and was stepping into the car when I looked back and saw his face. He was staring out the window, partly covered by the curtains.⁣ ⁣ But I could see he was sobbing. ⁣ ⁣ And my heart broke.⁣ ⁣ It was one of those moments that makes everything else pale into significance. I would have happily quit that second to make those tears stop, bundle him up and tell him mama was staying home. All I want is a happy, simple life. I want to spend time with my boys, play in the garden and help them water the veggie patch with their own tiny watering cans. ⁣ ⁣ But we all know that’s not always possible, right? Tell me I’m not alone in the ongoing battle between motherhood and career – how do you get through those heartbreaking moments? ⁣ Note Jed back right corner of couch…? ⁣ #kharawilliamsgetreal⁣ ⁣

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Khara advises any women in a similar situation to open up to their friends, seek professional help and focus on the things they want to do for themselves.

She started going to the gym, where she met a whole new group of friends, moved to the coast, pushed herself to get a promotion at work and listened to inspirational podcasts.

In more mum news, this woman was mocked for her ridiculous list of demands in an ad for a babysitter… including a degree in childcare, 24-hour emergency availability and a "second language to teach my kids".

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