I dread having sex because its over in minutes and I get so embarrassed – The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: SEX seems to be over within minutes for my partner and me, and I’m embarrassed by it.

I’m a man of 30 and my partner is 28. She is very understanding about it but I do find it awkward.

We see each other over the weekend and perhaps once in the week but I’m now dreading going to hers because I know we will have sex and I know it will be over very quickly. I think it’s down to stress.

I’ve tried to focus on something else when we are doing it so that I’m not so in tune with my body but nothing seems to work.

I don’t want this to ruin our relationship. What can I do?

DEIDRE SAYS: This is an easy one to fix. Focus on your partner rather than yourself. Use lots of foreplay with kissing and caressing and ask her to do the same for you.

Use stop and start techniques. Each time you feel close to climax, take a break and focus on her once more before you allow arousal again.

Let her tell you when she’s ready for full intercourse.

My e-leaflet on How Men Can Last Longer explains self-help sex therapy in more detail.

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