A mum says strangers thought she was being beaten by her husband due to her horrific seizure injuries.
Sarah Bomzer, 42, is sharing pictures of her injuries to raise awareness of epilepsy after being left distraught when some people assumed she was being abused.
The mum-of-two suffered her first seizure while making a cup of tea for her husband Adam, 43, last month.
She was rushed to hospital and suffered bruising to her arms and face and a cut under her eye after smashing into the kitchen counter as she fell.
Artist Sarah, who is undergoing tests to confirm a diagnosis of epilepsy, shared pictures of her injuries on social media to raise awareness of the condition and the impact it has on people’s lives.
However after posting the images, Sarah’s inbox was flooded with messages from people accusing Adam of domestic violence and urging the mum to stop lying about it.
As well as the upsetting messages and comments, Sarah has also overheard strangers gossiping as she walks by and asking each other ‘have you seen her face?’.
She claims poor Adam has been left 'extremely upset' to have to see messages from people who believed he was hurting his wife.
While the mum wants to reassure people with genuine concerns for her safety, she is also determined to shut down those who don’t want the truth to get in the way of a ‘good story’.
Sarah, of Southampton, Hampshire, said: “I shared the photos and people questioned me about how it happened.
“I’ve had people messaging me asking if I actually had a seizure and if I’m sure I’m telling the truth about it. Nothing malicious. All the messages were with good intentions.
“I understand because of the way the injuries look, they look like abuse could have been the cause but if that were the case, I never would have posted about it.
“If I was being abused, you wouldn’t see my injuries on social media, you wouldn’t hear about them at all. This happened because I have seizures.
“My husband isn’t responsible but it feels like some people won’t let the truth get in the way of a good story.
“It is hurtful. Adam is extremely upset about it. He’s been looking after me so well. He’s there at every hospital visit so for people to assume he’s hurting me is awful.
“It’s both of our second marriage and it would be nice if people could have faith that we got it right this time.
“I didn’t post the pictures to say ‘look at me, I’m a beaten wife’, I wanted to say ‘look I’m epileptic and this is what happens’.
“It’s really important to me to raise awareness of epilepsy and how it affects people. If there’s anything I can do to raise awareness of it, I’m prepared to do it.”
Divorcees Adam and Sarah have been married for a year after meeting through a Facebook group in 2016.
The couple were getting ready for a romantic weekend away when Sarah’s latest seizure took place and saw them rushing to A&E instead.
“Then he looked at my face and said ‘right you’re going to hospital’. At first I tried to tell him ‘no’ because I wasn’t in any pain but then I saw the blood on the kitchen floor.
“I’m so lucky really. If the cut was any closer to my eye, I could have lost my sight in that eye.
“My arm took the main force of my fall so that’s where I’ve had the most pain. The bruising was pretty bad but it’s all healing nicely.
“The seizures might happen to me but it’s harder for Adam. I have no idea what’s going on when they happen but he sees them and sees me hurting.
“It really is harder for him so for people to then say ‘maybe he’s knocking her about’ is awful.”
Sarah, who has two kids from a previous marriage Natalie Tait, 19, and Nicholas Tait, 15, started suffering from seizures in January 2016.
At first Sarah dismissed her seizures as panic attacks brought on by the stress of going through a divorce.
But the seizures became more and more frequent until Sarah was suffering up to eight every day and losing hours of her memory during the blackouts.
“The medication is really helping and our black labrador Bagheera knows when I’m about to have a seizure.
“He hasn’t been taught how to do it but if he’s around when I’m about to go, he will let me know.
“If I’m sitting down he will put his paws in my lap and if I’m standing he comes up to me and howls. He makes it very clear he needs my attention. The other two are dopey.
“All the doctors suspect it’s epilepsy but I’m waiting for an official diagnosis.
“My mum also has epilepsy but we’ve been told it’s not hereditary. It’s a huge coincidence and I have kids of my own so it’s a worry.”
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