{"id":143295,"date":"2023-09-20T13:15:26","date_gmt":"2023-09-20T13:15:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/celebritywshow.com\/?p=143295"},"modified":"2023-09-20T13:15:26","modified_gmt":"2023-09-20T13:15:26","slug":"my-partner-makes-more-than-me-but-refuses-to-pay-more-of-our-bills","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/celebritywshow.com\/lifestyle\/my-partner-makes-more-than-me-but-refuses-to-pay-more-of-our-bills\/","title":{"rendered":"'My partner makes more than me – but refuses to pay more of our bills'"},"content":{"rendered":"

<\/p>\n

Em Clarkson is here to solve all your problems.<\/p>\n

Well, sort of.<\/p>\n

As Metro\u2019s agony aunt the influencer, author and content creator (busy much?) is primed and ready to be a sympathetic ear, an oracle of wisdom or, quite simply, a stand-in for that girl in the nightclub bathroom you share your thoughts and dreams with while waiting in line.<\/p>\n

While she stresses she\u2019s no alternative for therapy, Em is keen to talk through any quandary.<\/p>\n

This week, she\u2019s helping Metro readers navigate splitting finances, safe sex, and re-framing thoughts on dating.<\/p>\n

Read on to find out what Em has to say\u2026<\/p>\n

Am I the arsehole that my partner\u2019s income is three times mine, but he refuses to split the household bills anything other than 50\/50?<\/h2>\n

You are not the arsehole, IMO. If you were living alone, you\u2019d live within the means available to you and as such would probably end up living with others in a similar position. As would your partner. Which means if the two of you are going to live together: one of you is going to have to compromise. <\/p>\n

Realistically though, only one of you is in a position to, and that\u2019s him. <\/p>\n

He can live below his means, but you can\u2019t really live above yours. Which means if he wants you living as he does, he\u2019s going to need to subsidise it. <\/p>\n

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Fair doesn\u2019t always look like 50\/50, particularly in relationships and with the cost-of-living crisis being what it is, I\u2019d argue a fairer way of living would be that you\u2019d pay proportionately in accordance with your differing salaries. At the very least, because your partner should really be there to make your life better, not harder. (And before anyone accuses me of being a bad feminist, I\u2019d contend this is applicable in most loving relationships between people of any gender).<\/p>\n

What do I do about guys refusing to wear condoms the first time you sleep with them\u2026<\/h2>\n

This is one of the fundamentals of consent and refusing to wear a condom after you\u2019ve asked him to, is recognised colloquially as \u2018stealthing\u2019. <\/p>\n

This is where a man either removes a condom without his partner knowing or lies about having put one on, and it constitutes rape. With that in mind I\u2019m leaving the number for Rape Crisis UK below and sending you lots of love and strength.<\/p>\n

You know this already but the risks that come from unprotected sex are high and you deserve better than any man who would prioritise a few moments of increased pleasure on his part, over your safety and critically, your consent.<\/p>\n

<\/i>Ask Em Clarkson: Your questions answered<\/h2>\n

I\u2019m 17, he\u2019s 31\u2026 Am I too young to tell him I have feelings for him?<\/p>\n

\u2018I look in the mirror and see my mother \u2013 I can\u2019t stand it\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018My boyfriend subscribed to Only Fans \u2013 how can I move past it?\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018I\u2019m 34 and I\u2019ve lost all interest in sex\u2026\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018I\u2019m scared my thinning boyfriend will give me the ick if he goes bald\u2026\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018Do I tell my new partner I\u2019m a 30-year-old virgin?\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018My fianc\u00e9 is not attracted to me \u2013 how do I get past this?\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018Do we settle down or go travelling?\u2019<\/p>\n

How to reframe dating thoughts to \u2018what do I want?\u2019 and not \u2018will they like me?\u2019<\/h2>\n

Ultimately, I think you need to look forward to your life in a year\u2019s time, picture you\u2019re coming from work to the home that you share with this person: are you happy that they are there? Have they respected your time and space? Cooked or done the laundry? How do you feel arriving back to them? Like you can be honest about the crappy day that you\u2019ve had? Or do you feel like you need to put your own needs second in order to keep them happy? Do you feel comfortable in your skin? Do they make you feel beautiful? Even though you\u2019ve been on a sweaty underground for an hour and have makeup down your face and ever so slightly smell? Do you feel that they love you for you? Or do you think that they like the parts of you you\u2019ve shown to them? <\/p>\n

Visualise the life that YOU want for yourself and see if you can see this person in it. Because if you can\u2019t, or you can, but only if you\u2019d compromise any of the stipulations that make your life one that you enjoy, then this is not the person you want to be wasting any time on. <\/p>\n

We have been conditioned to prioritise likability at the expense of pretty much all else, but you don\u2019t need to be liked. You need to be loved and respected and mostly you need to be happy. <\/p>\n

So, the reframe starts with a simple switch from \u2018will they like me\u2019 to the question I wish we asked ourselves so much more: \u2018do I even like them?\u2019<\/p>\n

<\/i>Want to ask Em Clarkson a question?<\/h2>\n

With nearly 300,000 followers on Instagram and a reputation as one of the more honest influencers out there, Em is often asked for advice in her DMs. Now, she wants to do the same in Metro, as our newest columnist. <\/p>\n

No topic is off limits. So if you\u2019ve a question for her agony aunt series, email askem@metro.co.uk.<\/p>\n

<\/i>Have you been affected by this storyline? Rape Crisis can help…<\/h2>\n

You can find information, support and advice by visiting Rape Crisis. 0808 802 999 is the confidential helpline number.<\/p>\n

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