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When you think about it first dates can be kind of like a job interview.<\/p>\n
You\u2019re asking questions to get a sense of each other, your likes and dislikes, how\u2019s the job and what do you do for fun. It\u2019s all about seeing if you think you\u2019re compatible.<\/p>\n
But apart from any obvious chemistry, a therapist reveals that there are five questions you should be asking on a first date in order to reveal the important information about their character.<\/p>\n
Warning, while these questions may seem like a lot, therapist Jeff Guenther trusts you can \u2018sprinkle these in organically\u2019.<\/p>\n
Jeff, known as Therapy Jeff on TikTok, shared in a video the first question you should ask, straight off the bat.<\/p>\n
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What are you most passionate about?<\/strong><\/p>\n Therapist Jeff says: \u2018This question helps you understand their priorities, interests and what truly excites them. Or, it can trigger a mini existential crisis about how meaningless and empty their lives are.\u2019<\/p>\n People in the comments were a little hesitant to ask this one, with one commenter saying: \u2018I don\u2019t think I want to trigger anyone\u2019s existential crisis on the first date.\u2019<\/p>\n We have to admit, we kind of agree. But then again, at least you\u2019ll know what you\u2019re getting yourself into.<\/p>\n 5 first date questions that reveal important information. #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #therapist #therapytok #relationshiptips #dating #datingadvice #relationshipgoals #firstdate #firstdates <\/p>\n Who is the most influential person in your life and why?<\/strong><\/p>\n This is the second question you should be asking according to Jeff and this one is a little less daunting.<\/p>\n He says: \u2018This question can reveal their values as well as the type of people they admire and look up to. Do they exclusively list cancelled male comedians? Great info to have.\u2019<\/p>\n This will help you identify whether your values will clash in the future.<\/p>\n What book, movie or TV show has had the biggest impact on your life?<\/strong><\/p>\n Question three is probably the most typical \u2018first date question\u2019 so far. <\/p>\n \u2018This can help you understand their taste in entertainment, the types of stories that resonate with them and most importantly what TV show they routinely falls asleep to every night,\u2019 says Jeff.<\/p>\n At least you\u2019ll get a feel for which shows you can binge watch together if nothing else.<\/p>\n What\u2019s your favourite childhood memory?<\/strong><\/p>\n Question four is a trip down memory lane. But why is something so far in the past so important?<\/p>\n \u2018This can provide insights into their upbringing, family dynamics and the experiences that shape them and fun teasers about the unresolved trauma that could manifest in a future relationship,\u2019 says Jeff.<\/p>\n While there\u2019s not much that\u2019s fun about unresolved trauma, at least you\u2019ll know what you\u2019re getting yourself into. <\/p>\n Do you have any unusual or quirky habits? <\/strong><\/p>\n Bad habits. Pet Peeves. While these things may seem pretty minor, they can also be the things that grate on you over time, creating problems in an otherwise healthy relationship.<\/p>\n Jeff says: \u2018This can provide insight into their personality and help you discover unique traits that make them who they are.<\/p>\n \u2018As well as super f**king annoying s**t they love to do that you\u2019ll want to fully consider if you\u2019re thinking about giving them a second date.\u2019<\/p>\n But many in the comments felt they couldn\u2019t even answer these questions for themselves, with one sharing how she can \u2018never answer this stuff on the spot\u2019.<\/p>\n If they couldn\u2019t answer them, how could they expect their date to answer them? But maybe that\u2019s just a sign that these are the questions that will give you a proper window into the life of your date.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n