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<\/p>\nIF you're a mum with more than one child, chances are you often worry about showing favouritism.<\/p>\n
So imagine the constant battle you'd face if you have 9 kids – well, that's the reality that a woman named Jenn Hoskins faces on a day-to-day basis.<\/p>\n
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But thankfully, the mum-of-9, who homeschools all of her kids, has shared the clever way they know she doesn't have a favourite.<\/p>\n
In a clip shared to TikTok (@jennhoskins<\/strong>), she addresses her social media followers and asks: "What do you do if you have more than one child and you don't want them to ever think that somebody's the favourite?"<\/p>\n In the clip, she explains: "With 9 children, this is something that I war against because 1. I see how dramatically different each one of them are.<\/p>\n "And 2. I know that if I were in their position, I wouldn't want to ever feel like I was inferior to somebody else."<\/p>\n Jenn begins by explaining that the first thing she does is to tell them all the time they they're her favourite. <\/p>\n "I don't share my kids name, so let's use my dogs," she explains.<\/p>\n FABULOUS VEGAS: JOIN TO CLAIM \u00a3100 BONUS<\/strong> PLUS 50 FREE SPINS<\/p>\n "You're my favourite Bow, you're my favourite, Arrow."<\/p>\n Next<\/span>, the mum-of-nine says she'll always say one thing she really likes about them.<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n "Usually I'll say it at least once a day every time I hug them, along with something along the lines of, 'I'm so thankful I get to be your mum.'"<\/p>\n She adds: "Another good thing to do is to make sure that you're publicly recognising their strengths with other siblings around and that you're doing it evenly distributed to everybody.<\/p>\n "Then they'll see everybody getting a chance to get their strengths recognised," Jenn explains. <\/p>\n The busy mum notes that another aspect is you don't want to treat everybody "equally," you want to treat everybody "fairly."<\/p>\n "Let's use the example of getting a gift because we all have experienced buying people gifts," she continues.<\/p>\n "You don't want to get the same gift for everybody in a crowd.<\/p>\n "I don't like gifts, I'm just not a 'stuff' person.<\/p>\n "However, if somebody showed up with the Lego monorail set from 1988 that I didn't get for Christmas, that may be a gift I'd want…but the gift is actually in somebody knowing that.<\/p>\n "That was something I wanted desperately and still want even 30 years later, so the gift there is knowing that somebody heard me."<\/p>\n She goes on to say how others may want something handmade while some may opt for a fancy food basket.<\/p>\n "They're all gifts, but they're different," she points out.<\/p>\n "It's not equal. It's fair."<\/p>\n Jenn explains how that's just one example, but urges people to use that in the same way.<\/p>\n "Whatever you are going to do for your kids, you want to make sure that your affection and your attention towards your children is equally distributed, but not equally given."<\/p>\n The post has since gone viral, racking up thousands of views and several comments from parents up and down the country.<\/p>\n "My mum would always say your my favourite name or your my favourite age, my brother always got the your my favourite son, he\u2019s the only boy," wrote one.<\/p>\n A second enthused: "This is great advice!"<\/p>\n A third commented: "I don\u2019t do the favourites thing but my teen keeps pointing out one of her sisters as her favourite and it\u2019s making me crazy!!"<\/p>\nREAD MORE ON BIG FAMILIES<\/h2>\n
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